If I could impose behavior on people…

Suddenly some kind of  “Napoleon complex“ came over me and I figured why not to share what I think every person should do and be? 🙂 Even whilst I am typing, it sounds completely wrong in all senses of my brain and body, however, if you will look at it a bit more relaxed and read in between the lines (bear with me) you might find some agreeable ideas.

WARNING: The wording here should be extremely subtle since some hot and controversial topics will be touched upon, however, it will be as straight and forward as it should not. I am sick and tired of “political politeness and “correctness“, therefore I will not go there.

  • Learn. Do your homework starting primary school. Read as much as you can, find a topic that truly interests you and go deep.
  • Discuss. Dialogues are one of the best ways to share ideas and knowledge and at the same time learn how to be a good partner. You learn how to listen and appreciate other person, you learn how to out your thoughts forward in a clear and structured manner, how to argue your arguments and how to logically make conclusions in agreement and highest enlightenment.
  • Watch as little or no TV as possible (unless it is History or National Geographic). They shovel us with chewed information without even asking weather it is a perspective that we share. They do not give you simple facts and allow you to make up your own mind and make you own conclusions, they usually tell you what is wrong and what is good. The paradox is that in everyday life no person likes someone telling him/her how he/she should act (with rare developmental fails), but if that someone sticks his head into a TV box, then things change and we listen to him as if he is our respected mother. Another issue with the media is that they shovel into us “yellow news“ which are worthless to our inner development and true existence: who wore what, who slept with whom, why do they kiss, how do they have sex, how should YOU dress, have sex, eat, flirt, talk, look, walk etc. Doesn’t that bother you?
  • Consume less. I know that economists probably will not agree with me, but look at how much the western world buys and throws out (usually to the ocean)! Think about how much do you ACTUALLY need in order to have great live and how much do you buy only because something else you think is wrong with your life! Stop buying things because the “fashion“ or “season“ has changed. Really? I want to ask. Really? Is that how much you think your life is worth? A peace of cloth or plastic or metal? Try harder and you’ll find that your life should not be defined by how many stuff you have and  how new they are.
  • Eat healthy and move. Biology, philosophy agrees with all the benefits that are brought to you by a healthy body. Not only that you will feel lighter and therefore your heart and brain will get more space and time to do their own things, but also you will easily see that good decisions and thoughts come more naturally.
  • Do not be jealous.  It eats us from inside. If you decide yourself that you want/need something – go out and do it. Jealousy lets out the demons outside and only an understanding that you are responsible for yourself can free our awkward minds.
  • Be honest. Firstly, with yourself and then, with everyone else. We are not used to the honesty at all. We expect to be lied to. Think about it, how can we build something strong and not collapsing with each economic (social, natural) shiver if we base it on inequality, lies, jealousy, fear, strive to be the “the best“ etc.
  • Do not strive for money and material wealth. It is not a surprise and not uncommon that wealthy and rich people are such only because someone is poor. I guess, in nowadays world, this is the most difficult… But i believe, that if you can find happiness somewhere else, you will gradually forget the need to show off, the need to buy things only because you can and brainless consumption.
  • Know yourself and deal with your emotions and flaws. Nobody and nothing else will do it for you. And you want to be happy, don’t you? 🙂 Only you can make yourself happy. It takes some hard work but it pays off well!
  • Go volunteer. Express yourself through helping the others. There is always something that you can give and that will be needed! It’s not like you can take your skills or knowledge or anything else to the grave with you 😉
  • Notice a stranger who needs help and actually offer a hand. What usually happens is that we talk about things that struck us – ohh, it’s so terrible, ohh, i saw this kid on a street, ohh, this family in the neighborhood is so poor, ohhh bla bla bla. Get up and do something about it! There will be much more use out of your action then words!
  • Do not litter, instead, clean everything what is around you. When you look around and it is beautiful and you helped to create it and maintain it, you will find more joy and pride. Be responsible for your actions and do not think that the mere fact that you pay taxes for cleaning is enough! We are all in this together!
  • Question your everyday being and look for deeper answers. Or not. If you have found what satisfies you. Be active! You will not reach anything if you sit and stare. 🙂
  • Love and let yourself be loved. Open your heart and you will see more light coming in then you could ever have dreamed of…
  • Do a job that you truly like or see meaning in it. If we need to work then at least make it pleasant!
  • Come up with your own suggestions how to live your own life and think if you would like to see other people living by the same rules.
  • Remember, we are all interconnected just as all of the above mentioned topics are.
  • Believe in science and yourself. If you want/need (and most of us do) to believe in something, better believe in tangible things, however, do not ever do it blindly. Don’t do anything blindly (unless, maybe, listen to music 🙂 )!
  • Make sure that religion only gives strength to you, but you do not harm other people or impose anything on them according to what you think (or someone says) the religion should do or be. Understand that it is a completely personal choice – to believe or not to believe, to seek redemption from something that arguably does not exist or deal with yourself here and now. It is my own choice and no one should think that he/she has a say in it.
  • Accept people for who they are. You might not like it, but as long as a person does not harm anyone or anything, he/she has a right to a life in which there is no prejudice, intolerance, unfriendliness and exploitation.
  • Take care of the nature. It takes care of us.
  • Listen to music. Isn’t it nice to relax, close your eyes and dive into harmony of sounds and voices. Let your brain rest and employ your senses!
  • Go out and see the world! Get new experiences, meet different cultures, people, languages. Enrich yourself with memories and emotions! If you want to be rich, be rich with these kind of things!
  • Let go of your stubbornness and principles. They are like walls that we build around ourselves. We think it strengthen us, but it actually blocks our view…
  • Do not foster your children according to your failed dreams.  Show them the world instead and let them follow their dreams with your love and support. Do not have children out of the social pressure! Have them because you feel that you can raise a good person and let him/her out in the world as an asset that creates and not destroys.
  • Elect the officials not according to their words, but to their deeds. Need I say more?
  • Do not be afraid of death or anything else. In other words, be brave! Fear guides to the opposite direction of freedom, logic, tolerance, independence, love  and everything else that allows to lead a life of your own choice.
I bet I raised some thoughts and questions with all of this?! Or maybe i forgot something essential? Let me know, let’s discuss and start/continue following our own guides for life 🙂
Lots of love and peace.
Reklama

16 Komentaras

  1. geranaujiena said,

    rugsėjo 20, 2011 at 12:45

    I’ve probably told you before how sorry I am for the person you actually CAN impose behaviour on 😉
    Bučkis, Gabrielyte :*

  2. Indre said,

    rugsėjo 20, 2011 at 13:34

    Ačiū, gražu:)

  3. geranaujiena said,

    rugsėjo 20, 2011 at 14:42

    Hm, kaip čia dabar elaboratinus…
    Tavo poste kažkaip sugeba sugyventi du sakiniai: 1) “Why not to share what I think every person should do and be?“ ir 2) “accept people for who they are“. Jie savaime vienas kitam prieštarauja. Ir nors tu labai nori ir pati laikytis antrojo kelio, ir kitiems jį parodyti, bet karts nuo karto išlenda tas pirmasis velniūkštis bei pridirba ir tau, ir kitiems bereikalingo streso.
    Uf…

    • myliupasauli said,

      rugsėjo 20, 2011 at 14:49

      Aha, matai, kaip čia gerai pamatei 🙂 Jie prieštarauja vienas kitam tik tada, kai nesigilini į tokį faktelį, kad žmonės turinį į savo veiksmus galį įdėti įvairų. Aš siūlau tik formą, o ne turinį. Pvz.: “be honest“ – žmogus įvairiai gali tai daryti, milijonu būdų būti atviras ir nuoširdus ir aš baisia stengsiuos jos tuos būdus priimti ir suprasti. Kitavertus, taip, tu matyt manyje įžvelgi tą naivų, bet kietą įsitikinimą ir atsisakymą priimti bandymus įrodyti, kad žmonės būna blogi. Ir šioje vietoje, jei man kas nors sakys, aš blogas, priimk mane tokį, koks esu, aš sakysiu – nifiga 🙂 Tu nesi blogas ir aš tavęs tokio nepriimsiu 🙂
      Sumažinau sakinių susipriešinimą? 🙂

      • myliupasauli said,

        rugsėjo 20, 2011 at 15:04

        Ir dar – negi nesutinki su dalimi teiginių/siūlymų? 🙂

      • geranaujiena said,

        rugsėjo 20, 2011 at 15:05

        Gerai, o kaip tu reaguoji į žmones, kurie elgiasi ne taip, kaip tau norėtųsi?

  4. myliupasauli said,

    rugsėjo 20, 2011 at 15:10

    Matai, Rustel, gal ir sunku patikėti, bet nesu ir aš tobula 🙂 Ir net nemanau, kad kada nors tokia būsiu, bet stengtis ir kelti sau tikslus vistiek galima 😉

  5. mm said,

    rugsėjo 21, 2011 at 10:59

    Aš turiu vieną argumentą, kuris anuliuoja “Consume less“: http://schiit.com/ 😀

    Ok, o jeigu rimtai, tai labai intuityvios tiesos, liuks, nors antraštė ir grėsminga!

    • myliupasauli said,

      rugsėjo 21, 2011 at 11:04

      Smagu 🙂 Tiesa, manau, kad kiekviena ta “intuityvi“ tiesa turi už savęs stiprią argumentacinę mokslinę sieną. Kitavertus, šiais laikais, daug kas sako turįs mokslinį pagrindimą… 🙂

  6. et said,

    rugsėjo 21, 2011 at 11:30

    Gal bus ir II-oji dalis, kaip to pasiekti:)

    • myliupasauli said,

      rugsėjo 21, 2011 at 11:32

      Na, matyt į gyvenimo pabaigą ir sukurpčiau kokią knygelę apie tai, kaip viso to pasiekti… 🙂 (čia, žinoma, jei jausiuos sėkmingai nugyvenus)

  7. et said,

    rugsėjo 21, 2011 at 11:32

    Sakralioji geometrija kartais padeda emocijas “sustyguoti“. http://xn—-ctbfeccsqzdeukfhinz.xn--p1ai/index.php/fotogalereya/category/4-sakralnaya-geometriya
    1 attached link

  8. Morgan said,

    rugsėjo 28, 2011 at 01:58

    Aha, matai, kaip čia gerai pamatei Jie prieštarauja vienas kitam tik tada, kai nesigilini į tokį faktelį, kad žmonės turinį į savo veiksmus galį įdėti įvairų. Aš siūlau tik formą, o ne turinį. Pvz.: “be honest” – žmogus įvairiai gali tai daryti, milijonu būdų būti atviras ir nuoširdus ir aš baisia stengsiuos jos tuos būdus priimti ir suprasti. Kitavertus, taip, tu matyt manyje įžvelgi tą naivų, bet kietą įsitikinimą ir atsisakymą priimti bandymus įrodyti, kad žmonės būna blogi. Ir šioje vietoje, jei man kas nors sakys, aš blogas, priimk mane tokį, koks esu, aš sakysiu – nifiga Tu nesi blogas ir aš tavęs tokio nepriimsiu
    Sumažinau sakinių susipriešinimą?

    +1

  9. moh said,

    rugsėjo 27, 2013 at 01:11

    There are meaning to every word you use, it all come from deep place, keep that place safe from may things you talk about .


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